Here Are Some Of The Red Flags In Relationship

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Here Are Some Of The Red Flags In Relationship

 

Every relationship is filled with challenges. During the initial steps, there goes the stage where you both have to get to know each other better. There is no telling if a relationship will become successful and it will last longer even if you passed all the obstacles and hurdles along the way. 

Some might say that couples are so engaged with the idea of being together, to the point that they are being blinded from the red flags in front of them. This is why it is advisable to always see things from a different perspective so that you can avoid future heartbreaks.

 

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Justifying Bad Behavior

Sure, some people have their own quirks and flaws, but if you find yourself explaining and justifying your partner’s behavior, you might have to check your gut feeling about it. According to an article by Independent UK, a British newspaper, there is a psychological phenomenon called “confirmation bias” which makes the person discard the evidence that doesn’t agree with their own views and opinions. 

 

 

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Refuses to Talk About Issues

Erika Ettin, founder of the dating site, A Little Nudge, said in the article, “I’d say the one major red flag in a person’s behavior that may indicate that the relationship won’t work is the unwillingness to talk through issues, big or small.” Note that all relationships will experience disagreements and arguments through time, it is a healthy and normal part of it. 

However, if the other party starts to shut down and refuse to talk about the issue, the disagreement will not be solved. It is not a good thing when your partner starts to place all the blame on you or someone because this could mean that they are in denial about their own issues. 

 

 

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Testing Boundaries

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that your partner can cross your personal boundaries. If they start playing around it, consider it as a red flag. Healthy relationships thrive by allowing trust, respect, and love combine together to make the relationship work. They should know that if you say “no”, it means “no”. There shouldn’t be an excuse as to why they have to push you to do whatever they want and disregard your boundary.

 

 

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Entitlement Issues

This also includes the mindset that they feel entitled to receive more for them instead of keeping things equal within a relationship. Entitlement issues are said to be common in marriages where one person is continually giving their best while the other just receives them. Some couples fail to see the imbalance in their relationship, and this is where the other selfish person takes advantage to meet their needs. 

 

 

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Something Feels Wrong

For anxious people, they might find it hard to shrug off the feeling that there is something wrong. But these feelings might be telling us that we should take a pause and reevaluate things. “The first thing to look for is your own intuition and listening to your gut -- if you have the feeling that something is wrong, things aren’t adding up, then trust that.” Tracy Malone, a relationship expert on Youtube.

She also said that looking back at each other’s past relationships can help in understanding the current behavior displayed in your current relationships. If they claim that their past was ‘crazy’, that might be a red flag.

 

 

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Narcissistic Behavior

Relationships should work both ways. There should be a lot of giving and receiving from both parties, and not everything should revolve around one person. If your partner starts to snatch the spotlight every day or during decision making, it might be a sign that they are trying to upstage you and your concerns.

Narcissists lack empathy. They fail to recognize that there are other people around them that need attention too. These people only focus on their growth and they also fail to believe that there is something wrong in the relationship.

 

 

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They Deny or Dismiss Your Feelings

Having a relationship with a person filled with red-flags can be hard to distinguish. They are often great at manipulating people, emotionally. These manipulators will establish an emotional double standard within the relationship as they try to make your feelings denied, criticized or dismissed.

Manipulators also have a way to keep you doubting about your feelings. But, deep inside, you know that there is something wrong as you notice their secretive and unexplained behaviors

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