7 Key Factors That Make Relationships Work

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7 Key Factors That Make Relationships Work

 

There are three qualities in a good relationship that are difficult to change or to negotiate; they’re either there or they aren’t. They are essential to any relationship whether with a loved one or a co-worker, and usually take the form of “love languages,” shared belief and philosophies, and communication. A relationship that has all three of these qualities can then be further broken down into 7 key factors.

 

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1. Respect

More than anything, if a person respects you, they will communicate. They will answer texts promptly, explain what happened, and treat their partner as a human being. When you respect a partner, you won't lie, cheat, or steal. Although this does not guarantee that the relationship will be perfect, it will keep things smooth, fair, and even. 

Many have misunderstood the saying, "People who care about you the most are the ones who hurt you." The truth behind this is that it’s because you care most about them so that when they offend you, it hurts more.

The same goes for platonic and professed relationships. A co-worker will not apply for a position knowing that you've wanted and have been targeting it longer and putting more effort to get it. If they respect you, they would at least inform you and talk to you about it. Mutual respect is among the most important components of a successful relationship. Its absence is oftentimes the root of a number of problems in romantic, platonic, and professional relationships.

 

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2. Stability

Stability can be broken down into financial, emotional, and career. Oftentimes, partners are more interested in someone that can take care of bills every month than a person that buys lavish gifts but lives in their parents’ basement. If a spouse if always asking for money, that can put stress on a relationship, in the same way when a person acts like they have more money when in fact they don’t.

This also applies to friends and family and even professional relationships. If a friend is always talking about how life is so bad, crying until 3 a.m., relationships of that sort get worn down eventually until someone stops answering the phone or texting back.

A career that forces an individual to fly to a different country at a moment’s notice can bring negative effects on a relationship. This is one of the reasons why celebrities are more prone to divorce or to remain as single.

 

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3. Common Interest

After the initial stages of flirting, drinking, or having sex, there has to be more on which to base the relationship. A partner doesn’t just talk or debate about any single thing, but everything possible. Each one in the relationship should not be afraid to share fears, opinions, and thoughts. As a rule, the partner, friend, or co-worker shouldn’t be put down or belittled for an idea that isn’t met with complete agreement. 

 

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4. Trust

Trust is among the most important factors in long-term relational success. Without it, the other factors will not have much meaning. Can each one count on the other, remain reliable, and dependable? Trust can become complicated—some trust blindly, others have issues. Trust may be gained through proven actions and not on weak promises and wishful thinking.

 

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5. What type of person shows up in you?

In any kind of relationship, whether platonic, romantic, or professional, being around a person brings out a different side of you. You may be more patient with one or more demanding with another. Consider whether a better self is shown when you are with your partner; do certain situations bring out a particular side? It’s important to remain honest to yourself for long-term mental health and happiness.

 

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6. How does each one deal with conflict?

Prolonged relationships become prone to different kinds of arguments that can be shallow or one that dredges up years of grudges. Successful relationships are those that are able to work around conflicts and let go of hard feelings. The focus remains on the issue rather than on the person at fault. Once the matter is solved, each one is forgiven, with arguments forgotten or learned from. More than this, especially amidst adversity, it’s important to know whether a partner has got your back. Do challenges bring each one closer or farther?

 

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7. Compatibility of financial values

Many argue that financial values should not be included in developing a relationship. But normally among romantic couples, having an end goal of marriage, compatible financial values make a big difference. Whether it’s how each one spends, saves, and even makes money. Normally, above all, stability is what each looks for, and stability according to the financial value of the partner. Formulating a financial plan may ease differences in financials and discontent. According to Psychology Today, an online platform focusing on human behavior, 30 percent of couples disagreeing about finances are more likely to end in divorce than those don’t.

It’s not to say that once the three qualities are present in a relationship, it’s going to be all peaches and cream. Problems will still arise, but they may not exactly bother us as much.

 

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