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Divorce is a very sad and confusing time for everyone in the family. Kids, regardless of age, will feel stressed out, angry, and sometimes, even guilty. There comes a point when children even blame themselves for the divorce. It is normal for children to become sad and angry or grieve when a family breaks up. Parents, however, must help the children during the process to make it less painful for them.
Divorce is never a smooth process but there are ways to cope with the breakup and come out of it as a more understanding and patient individual.
Relationships have some good days and bad days. These things contribute to each person's different experiences that can sometimes alter one's perceptions. In today's modern world, many marriages end up in divorce and it has a negative effect on both parents and children.
There are couples who divorce peacefully while there are those who spend years from courtroom to courtroom. Regardless of the situation, divorce is a stressful time for everyone and psychologists have noted the detrimental effects of divorce on adults and children alike.
Couples marry because they think that they have found the one with whom they want to spend their entire life. Sometimes, this does not happen and couples end up divorcing.
How Women are Affected by Divorce
Emotional and financial challenges are the two main problems of women who are going through a divorce. The stress of caring for the children can add to the stress too. According to the article “The Effect of Marriage and Divorce on Women’s Economic Well-Being,” a divorced woman has limited financial support compared to still-married women. This leaves them almost never being able to recover from their financial status until they marry again.
According to The Short-Term and Decade-Long Effects of Divorce on Women’s Midlife Health, divorced women have higher stress levels than married women after the divorce because they have to make ends meet and fix their life back. There are a series of emotional upheavals that a woman experiences during this time. These feelings, when not managed and addressed, may cloud a woman's judgment and lead her to depend on alcohol or even drugs.
Women may also have trust issues. Being more emotional than men, women are less likely to trust right away after a divorce. It can make a woman second-guess and remain unsure about herself and her decision-making capability.
How Men are Affected by Divorce
Even though women may be more emotional than men, they have a harder time coping with divorce. However, this depends on the circumstances surrounding the divorce. Men usually keep things to themselves because it is society's perception that men are stronger and not emotional. The truth is that men also suffer as they go through a divorce. They sometimes experience depression because they are hesitant to express how they are feeling.
Men relate divorce to losing intimacy, lesser finances, loss of connections, and even lesser connection with children. Just like women, men also face trust and confidence issues. However, men are still known to marry sooner than women.
How Children are Affected by Divorce
Divorce has a major impact on children because this is a big lifestyle change for them. Sometimes, it can be the best solution for everyone too. But nevertheless, it is important that parents guide their children to lessen the trauma that they are going to experience.
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Children who have divorced parents go through various experiences. They are more likely to have health problems than those children whose parents remained married. In school, children who have divorced parents have lower grades and they are not so fun to be around with. They are also more prone to dropping out of school.
Those who came from a broken family have higher tendencies of attempting suicide than those whose home remains intact.
Helping a Child Through Divorce
This is a very emotional experience for a child because their world just turned upside down. The very people whom they love and look up to are separating. For children, it feels like nothing good is going to happen to them anymore.
Parents should learn to reassure their children with the new arrangement. Provide routines to kids and tell them that their help is very much needed during these times. Couples must also maintain a pleasant working relationship and spare the children from additional stress by arguing in front of them. Children who see their parents fighting can cause them to feel even sadder. This is why parents must support kids by always putting their children's needs before their own. Despite the divorce, kids must still be able to feel that they are loved.
Let kids know that it is not their fault why you all have to go through a divorce. See to it that as parents, you still work together and do not say bad things about each other to your children.