|Introverts also socialize with other people but not like what normal people or extroverts do / Photo by: Master1305 via Shutterstock|
Contrary to popular belief, introverts are not asocial. Just like extroverts, they also crave socialization but one of the major differences is that they tend to be very selective with whom they socialize with, Verywell Family says.
A Few General Quirks of Introverts
According to Introvert, Dear, there are instances when it can be easy for people to identify when an individual is an introvert. Usually, in groups, they do not contribute much to the conversation. They are often spotted listening and observing when they are around others. Typically, they would shy away from small talk and only say something when they think it is significant. Introverts may not always be down to party but they show their concern by listening intently when their friends need someone to talk to. They have an affinity for solitude and will often seek to be alone to reflect on deep thoughts.
How They Form Friendships and Social Preferences
Making friends with others can be a real struggle for introverts since taking time to know another person can be extremely draining for them. They do not need to have plenty of friends. Instead, they would rather stick with as few as one or two people they are close to, despite being acquainted with several others. Due to this preference, they are usually accused of not trying to gain more friends and are often perceived as not having sufficient social skills.
Personal space is very important to introverts. They enjoy staying in a room all by themselves with their doors shut. Others may misunderstand this behavior as an indicator of depression but it is not. Rather, it is just the nature of introverts. Being in the midst of many people can be exhausting to them. Spending time in solitude gives them a moment to recharge and to ponder about things without any intrusions. They dislike attending large parties. If they actually need to attend such an event, they will stay near their closest friends and converse about topics they are passionate about while the party is going on. Children who are introverted tend to play in the corner with only one or two playmates.
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What Activities Do They Enjoy?
Introverts prefer to be engaged in solitary activities or those that only require a few people. They enjoy reading and other creative activities such as music, art, and writing. They also have fun doing quiet activities that stimulate their imagination. In situations where they have to join a group activity or game, they would rather step back and observe others do the activity before participating. This is not a sign of shyness but just them trying to familiarize themselves with the rules of the game or activity.
How Do They Act In Social Situations?
In social situations, introverts usually do not say much and would rather not draw attention to themselves, even if it is the positive kind. They usually keep quiet about their accomplishments and may not reveal everything they know. Gifted introverts especially may try to keep their talents a secret and may try to appear more “average” than they actually are. Introverts tend not to be very animated whenever they feel worn out, are included in a large group or when they feel overwhelmed by their surroundings. In these circumstances, they may barely show any facial expression or have any body movement.
They are said to possess two separate personalities. They have a public persona and a private one which is why they may act differently in certain settings. For example, in places that they are comfortable with, such their home, they may talk more while in other settings like schools,they may be more silent.
Preferred Form of Communication
Introverts often express their thoughts better in the written form than they do verbally. If they really have to talk, they may pause briefly before they reply. In some cases, they may practice in their mind what they want to vocalize before they actually say it. They are usually slow in responding to others because they want to be able to sort out their thoughts or they may have a hard time looking for the right thing to say. They are better at listening than speaking. When listening to someone else speak, they will make eye contact with them and will try their best not to cut off what the other person is saying. Engaging in small talk is quite bothersome for them and may prefer not to say anything. If a subject piques their interest, they can talk about it for hours and hours. They hate it when others interrupt them while speaking or while they are concentrating on a task.
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How They Express Emotions
After having to be surrounded by crowds or having to interact with many people, especially strangers, they may find themselves emotionally drained. They are not fond of going to places that are packed with people. When exposed to environments like this for too long, introverted children may become ill-tempered. Introverts are also known to be territorial and may feel uncomfortable with having to share their space with others for long periods of time. They may feel that house guests are invading their personal space.
Other things to know about them is that they can be very dedicated when working on a project, reading a book or trying to get an in-depth understanding of the subjects they are very interested in. They are always in touch with their inner world and tend to see details others miss.