|Learning and experiences will shape how a child's brain will grow and develop / Photo by KC Slagle via Shutterstock|
Every child in the world deserves to be happy and have memorable experiences that they could treasure as they grow older. Raising kids is the holy grail of parenting and one of the jobs that parents should accomplish is making their kids happy. In order to raise children to be successful adults, there are decisions that parents have to make even though their children won’t understand their parents’ decisions.
Furthermore, having a happy childhood memory proves to have a positive effect on the upbringing of the child. According to Newsweek, having positive relationships with other people while they are young teaches the person to have a sense of gratitude and it also serves as a beacon that will lead them to have a better interpersonal relationship in the future.
Experiences between birth and age five matter significantly to children’s long-term emotional and psychological health, and changing these experiences for the better pays dividends, according to an editorial and several new reports. Genetics play an important role in development, but experiences are equally important. It may influence how a child’s brain is wired from birth, but learning and experience will literally shape how that child’s brain will grow and develop.
The older a child gets, the more he can remember. Memory being the useful thing as it is, it would be great if we could hurry it along a bit, do something to kick it into overdrive. But it resists being rushed and all the so-called memory games and drills don’t do a thing for kids, experts say. Everyone access their memories in the same way that people store them, through language but since babies have no language for recording their experiences, all the hugs, and kisses, smells and tastes of babyhood are irretrievable, though their effects last a lifetime.
Happy Kid, Happy Life
Science Daily recently posted on their website that people who have happy childhood memories tend to have a much better health status when they get older. Adults who have happy memories when they grow up also showed better working performance and they are also able to keep their personal relationships better than those people who experience less fond memories when they are still kids. They are also less prone to having mental health issues and they are also less prone to substance abuse later in their life.
The research found that a child who has been loved and nurtured early in life may develop a larger hippocampus, the brain region that is important for learning, memory, and stress responses. In general, it can be assumed that a childhood full of maternal love is a happy one. Brain images revealed that happy children of nurturing mothers had hippocampal volumes 10 percent larger than children whose mothers were not as nurturing.
Experts also believe that the earliest bond during their children can have a huge effect on the child’s social skills when they grow older. Experts say that this first bond can lead to a number of different patterns of attachment. The experience of consistent care promotes a secure attachment, while experiences of inconsistent or unavailable care lead to insecure attachment patterns.
How successful children are in getting along with their peers is linked to their behavioral, cognitive, and social skills. Children need to be able to be sensitive to other people’s feelings and in handling their own emotions as well. Preschool friendships are helpful in developing social and emotional skills, increasing a sense of belonging and decreasing stress. People who feel lonely or socially isolated tend to be more depressed, have more health issues and may have a shorter lifespan.
|Happy memories leads to a better working performance in adulthood / Photo by Getty Images|
How Parenting Affects Childhood Memories
It is known that parents play a vital role in building a child’s fundamental emotional health. Motherly posted on their website that researches showed that a strong relationship between a parent and a child causes them to have a much more positive view in life when they get older. Adults who have a healthy relationship with their parents also tend to have a higher self-esteem and they are also able to communicate with other people more effectively.
Good enough parenting means that the child is loved and valued for who they are, not for how they behave, and the child is nurtured, cared for and protected, but not coddled. In fact, the “good enough” parent allows the child to be disappointed and frustrated at times so that they learn to tolerate and cope with these types of experiences in adulthood.
There are many possible reasons why parents’ characteristics and parenting behaviors might affect children’s health care. Because parents are the ones who take their children for medical care, it may be that some parents are more likely to initiate these visits. These parents may be more attentive and responsive to their children’s symptoms, perceiving a need for prompt health care. It is also possible that positive parenting behaviors decrease children’s health risks resulting in fewer illnesses and reducing the child’s need for health care.