The MBTI or the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator shows that there are five personality aspects, according to 16personalities.com. These aspects are: Mind, Energy, Nature, Tactics and Identity. Mind explains how people interact with their surroundings. Energy determines how individuals process information. Nature how a person makes decisions and copes with their emotions. The Tactics aspect deals with how people work and plan. Lastly, Identity describes how confident a person is in their abilities and decisions. With all those aspects established, the Nature aspect will be the focus of this discussion.
As it was previously explained, the Nature scale describes how people make their choices. According to changingminds.org, these decisions can be based on logic or by first taking into consideration the other people involved.At a glance, people may get the impression that the Thinking types are those who are intelligent while the feeling types are those who are overly emotional. This should not be so.
The Myers Briggs Foundation states that everyone has emotions about the choices they make.16personalities.com states that the Thinking Types can be emotional on the same level as the feeling types, but they have the tendency to hide it or subdue it. According to personalitymax.com, the majority of Feelers are females, while most men are Thinkers.
To give an overview of the profile of the Thinkers or the Thinking types, the basis of their decision is founded on logic. They are people who try to assess situations objectively. Personalitymax.com says they are characterized as being objective, wanting to learn the truth, rational, critical, impersonal, known as thick-skinned and being firm with people. Most of their choices are based on facts and they are ruled by their head rather than their heart. They prefer to be truthful rather than tactful and have the ability to easily point out flaws.
They are also solution-oriented. They are critical thinkers who try to work towards problem-solving. However, even though they are naturally rational, this does not mean that they are devoid of emotion. They do their best to shield their emotions from everyone.and make sure that no one sees them.
In contrast, the Feeling Types also known as the Feelers make decisions based primarily on social considerations, according to changingminds.org.
According to wellandgood.com they are relational creatures and always think about how their choices will impact others.
Feeling Types are characterized by being passionate, driven by emotion, being gentle, getting easily hurt, being warm, caring and empathetic when dealing with others and disliking conflict. Feelers are also known to be subjective because of this.
Their choices are influenced by their heart and do not really hide their feelings. They always prioritize the feelings of other people in situations.
They also tend to judge situations based on what they feel.
Cooperating With Thinkers and Feelers
Since Thinkers and Feelers have distinct ways of decision-making, this tends to make them clash with each other.
Feelers may perceive Thinkers to be cold and cruel while Thinkers may see them as unreliable and emotional.
Repeatedly, sources emphasize that Thinkers are capable of feeling emotions.
For example, Feelers would be more inclined to donate to charity since they believe this is one of the best ways to help others.
Meanwhile, thinkers may not be apt to support charities but this does not mean they are unwilling to help others. It just simply means they do not believe charity is the best way to help and they are not easily moved by emotional appeals. They would try to find other ways to help other people, often in more practical ways such as investing in education for the poor. Given these differences, each of them must work towards knowing how to deal with each other.
To be able to do this, changingminds.org lists how to approach the Thinkers and the Feelers.
For the Thinkers, they suggest that Feelers should try to:
- Keep it short and simple when talking to them.
- Not to ramble without a clear direction of the conversation.
- Be calm and reasonable.
- Not think that they do not care about emotions. Instead, understand and accept that they may have different values.
- Present their feelings and emotions as part of the facts that should be considered in the decision.
On the other hand, In relating to Feelers, Thinkers should try to:
- Accept that their decisions will be based on personal impact rather than facts.
- Be friendly.
- Show empathy by presenting areas of agreement first.
- Introduce themselves and get to know the person
- Know that how they communicate is just as essential as to what they communicate.
If a thinker goes overboard with being rational, they can risk being heartless and uncaring.
However, if a Feeler solely depends on concern for others and their emotion, they may risk being biased and being unreasonable.
Deciding with the heart and the head are both important factors in decision-making. This why it is also vital to hear both the sides of the Thinkers and Feelers in making a choice in handling a situation.